Monica Guberman Raza – Lightarian Licensee, Brazil

Posted: June 2007

Healing thru Neuro-Linguistic Programming and Lightarian™ Reiki

As a clinical psychologist who has always been interested in and involved with spiritual studies, I find fascinating the possibility of combining Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP) and Lightarian™ Reiki. Once a new client comes to my practice, we usually spend at least half an hour talking about what brought her to the Reiki session, her expectations, and basic information about the Lightarian Reiki and other healing modalities such as Flower Essences and NLP. After the session is done, we share the feelings, thoughts and perceptions experienced during the session. I frequently use some of the NLP techniques during this third phase of the process, helping my clients integrate some of their insights. It seems that the wonderful feelings of relaxation they feel help them to enjoy even more the benefits of a NLP session that can be done either the same day or in another opportunity.

Vanessa’s mother called me some months ago, telling me she was very concerned about her daughter, who had been showing symptoms of bulimia for quite some time, and despite all the mother’s efforts, the situation was getting worse and worse. Vanessa and I had a brief conversation on the phone and she accepted to come to my practice for a session. She looked very unhappy and depressed; we established an excellent rapport though. Since then, we have been basically working with some deep emotional and sexual issues, related to a very low self-esteem and strong difficulties with relationships in general. As time passed by, she gradually got better and her bulimia symptoms ceased. Vanessa is presently doing fine, got a new job, made new friends and started dating someone she really likes. One of the techniques I have used twice is called “Parts Play”, where different ‘parts’ of oneself are invited for a ‘meeting’, where they can express their feelings and ideas, in order to either obtain valuable information, or to help come to terms with some emotional issues, reaching the point of getting an agreement between ‘parts’. Vanessa truly enjoyed both experiences and they represented to her a turning point in the whole process. The sessions with Lightarian Reiki were very helpful, providing her a sense of relaxation, integration, harmony and balance, which makes me think that the combination of both practices has shown to be extremely rich and helpful.

We are going through amazing and challenging times when the capacity of healing emotional issues, finding mental balance and bringing spirituality into our daily lives, have been some of the major motivations for thousands of people around the globe. Generally speaking, the majority of individuals who have chosen to find more harmonious ways of existence, have turned their eyes in the direction of new possibilities and new avenues, that may lead them to a better understanding about who they are and what their purpose in life is. Individuals are becoming more aware than ever about the importance of living a happy life, improving their relationships and reaching a sense of accomplishment and personal fulfillment. As a result, we have witnessed the development of new theories and techniques that provide people some very interesting tools. One of those techniques is Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP), developed in the early 70’s by Richard Bandler and Joseph Grinder, in association with Gregory Bateson. They observed that successful people share some common characteristics in terms of communication skills, rapport-building and self-improvement that could be reproduced through certain techniques. They were very much interested in how communication could be effectively achieved, how people could successfully influence one another and how people’s behaviors could be changed in order to get the best out of their possibilities in life.

NLP can be better understood as a ‘toolbox of strategies and techniques’ that helps people successfully amplify positive behaviors, while diminishing negative ones, bringing to the individual’s awareness, that all the necessary resources within oneself are actually, already there. NLP has been influenced by hypnotherapy, psychotherapy and human potential movement and is based in the idea that rather than perceiving the ‘real world as it is’, we construct our reality through the filters of our belief systems, values and assumptions, structuring what it is called our own ‘map of the world’. NLP techniques have shown to be extremely useful as therapeutic tools, but it is the possibility of their use in our daily lives, that makes it even more interesting.

Despite all cultural differences, there’s something all individuals share in common: they want to be understood and appreciated. According to NLP this can be better achieved when a good rapport is established during a conversation. Matching gestures, posture and body language, increases the chance of a successful communication. Also, there are some accessing cues that can be easily observed, because they are very much related to physiological aspects. Breathing pattern changes, tonality and tempo changes and eye/head movements, provide the listener some very interesting clues about how the communication is being processed. Eyes movements, for example, can be done either consciously or unconsciously. It is interesting to observe that it is the unconscious aspect of it what gives us some useful information about how the person is processing his internal experiences. Looking up to the right indicates the person is doing some kind of future visualization. Looking up to the left, indicates the person is ‘seeing’ visual images from the past. Looking to the right at the level of one’s ears, indicates the person is ‘constructing’ sounds and words (composing a speech, for example), while looking to the right indicates the person is remembering familiar sounds and words. Looking down to the right indicates the person is experiencing some kinesthetic sensations, feelings and emotions, while looking down to the left indicates an ‘internal dialogue’ is going on.

Despite the fact that NLP might be controversial, not being accepted by part of the scientific community as science because of lack of validation, its techniques continue to be very helpful for activities where communication skills are major tools, even being used as an adjunct by psychotherapists and other therapeutic disciplines with great success. The NLP-Lightarian Reiki work that has been done with patients like Vanessa, simply reinforces the idea that the more we integrate different practices in our daily work, the better for patients and clients. And that’s what really matters.



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